This weekend I heard a message that was inspiring from multiple standpoints. The pastor spoke about the story of Joseph, and how he won favor with his father. He had won favor to the point that his siblings wanted him done away with. What I thought was really cool about the message was the fact that the father supported the dreams of Joseph, and that he empowered him in the process. The truth is that we often times do not have empowering fathers in our lives, and we often times do not have church "fathers" to empower us either.
In light of fathers day, I thought this was a very powerful message for fathers. Are you empowering your children? Are you letting them know that their dreams are important? Are you helping enable those dreams? As a Christian leader, I have to ask myself am I doing that for those that do not have a Christian parent to do that? I can say that I try to do that, but I am not always the best at it.
Having been in the church for a few years now, I can say that I have met more discouragement than encouragement from pastors and respected leaders. The issue was that I had no relationship with them. So to me, I just disregarded them and moved on, and at times I was tempted into rebellion. I felt, "how dare they tell me this when they do not even know who I am?" This is what leads to the next part of the post.
Rules without Relationship= Rebellion. This goes for any sort of circumstance. Whether it is a ruler, a boss, a parent, or a mentor, if the person does not have an interest in those they are over, rebellion is bound to ensue. This is why strict parents lose the respect of their children at times. The kids see the rule book but they do not see the love or investment in their lives. They learn to fear the parents wrath or avoid their judgment, but they never love them because their is no connection.
One of the best bosses that I had in the Navy was a women who was very cantankerous. However, at the end of the day, we looked out for one another so I did not mind the fact that she was a bit angry at times. We usually laughed it off shortly after. But when I knew that I was going to get yelled at no matter what and that they really did not care about me as a person, I was either going to shut down or rebel. I usually did both.
I am never quite sure if Joseph's brothers were supported by their father, but it seemed that the creativity that they had went towards getting rid of Joseph. I think that the important thing to remember though is that Joseph dared to dream and dared to share things with his father. This is because he had a relationship with him and felt comfortable with sharing those dreams with him. This is the same way with God, our fathers, and our church fathers. If we never get close enough to them to share with them what we feel or what we hope to do, we will always fear their judgment or rebel against them.
So today, I hope that you feel as inspired as I did to want to empower those that are in our care. I also hope that if you do not have a father that you can be relational with, that you can be bold enough to step out and dream without fear of rejection and failure. Always remember, the rules that God has are their to keep you safe, not to be abusive. He gave you those dreams for a reason, but have you learned to believe in yourself? I hope you would, he gave you those dreams because he believes in you!
Monday, June 20, 2011
Thursday, June 16, 2011
Act of Giving or Life of Giving?
I had this interesting run in when I was at wal-mart last week. I met a guy in a motorized wheelchair that apparently wanted money. He gave me a lot of information, including getting my military supervisor to write me a letter of commendation. So I gave him the dollar that I had in my wallet. He then asked me if I had an ATM card so that he could get money, to which I promptly said that I did not have any more money to give. With that, he took off quickly. Should I have given him the dollar? I am not sure, but at least I can say that I gave him something if he really needed it. If not, its between him and God. Was I being stingy? Thats all I had in my pocket. I was not about to give a lot of money to someone that I was not sure about.
This made me think a lot about how we view giving. I do not want to get into a discussion about tithing and the Biblical view on that, because I find that the discussion comes up the most when the church is in a financial pinch. I think it is important to tithe because the church needs to be taken care of. If the roof leaks, who is going to pay for it? But are we as Christians willing to give outside of our tithes? At times I think that sometimes I look at giving as an event rather than a life style.
This is a very touchy subject that I am moving into, and I do not want to sound preachy and I do not want to condemn people. I am writing about it because it is something that I think about and have been working through, and I think it is worth discussing. This incident made me wonder about giving to someone on the side of the road, because some of those people may not use their money for food. It also makes me think about boundaries that we have on giving and at what point does someone have to be responsible for their own actions. Also, should money be the only thing we give?
On the money subject, I think about not only how do we share with people, but what about things such as tipping waitresses? Most of them only make 2 something and hour before tips are considered. It made me really think about ways I could bless them. Instead of leaving a tract without tip, I would rather give a decent amount and know that I did my best to help them through the day. They have hard days often, and they often times view Christians as cheap and needy... so I try my best to dispel that stereotype.
Speaking of words, what about the words that we use? Giving someone a compliment goes over a heck of a lot better than an insult or a sarcastic joke. We constantly give words to people, are the words that we are giving giving life, or are they giving death? This is why I have tried to take sarcasm out of my language, because usually it does not give life to people.
What about the way in which we give our time? I have found that churches often times look at ministry as events, rather than a life style. It is time to go to that ministry, or do this good thing. What about just living life, and when you are able to meet someone's need, that you do your best to meet that need?
So one thing that I would like to encourage you to do this week is to find a way that you can give to someone without asking anything in return. But always remember, that when someone expects you to give to them, you really have to be careful because giving is not something that should be taken for granted. And when you give, do not say, "Okay, I will go to this ministry today." but instead, ask God to show you who really needs to be blessed today... whether it is with your time, money, words, or talents.
This made me think a lot about how we view giving. I do not want to get into a discussion about tithing and the Biblical view on that, because I find that the discussion comes up the most when the church is in a financial pinch. I think it is important to tithe because the church needs to be taken care of. If the roof leaks, who is going to pay for it? But are we as Christians willing to give outside of our tithes? At times I think that sometimes I look at giving as an event rather than a life style.
This is a very touchy subject that I am moving into, and I do not want to sound preachy and I do not want to condemn people. I am writing about it because it is something that I think about and have been working through, and I think it is worth discussing. This incident made me wonder about giving to someone on the side of the road, because some of those people may not use their money for food. It also makes me think about boundaries that we have on giving and at what point does someone have to be responsible for their own actions. Also, should money be the only thing we give?
On the money subject, I think about not only how do we share with people, but what about things such as tipping waitresses? Most of them only make 2 something and hour before tips are considered. It made me really think about ways I could bless them. Instead of leaving a tract without tip, I would rather give a decent amount and know that I did my best to help them through the day. They have hard days often, and they often times view Christians as cheap and needy... so I try my best to dispel that stereotype.
Speaking of words, what about the words that we use? Giving someone a compliment goes over a heck of a lot better than an insult or a sarcastic joke. We constantly give words to people, are the words that we are giving giving life, or are they giving death? This is why I have tried to take sarcasm out of my language, because usually it does not give life to people.
What about the way in which we give our time? I have found that churches often times look at ministry as events, rather than a life style. It is time to go to that ministry, or do this good thing. What about just living life, and when you are able to meet someone's need, that you do your best to meet that need?
So one thing that I would like to encourage you to do this week is to find a way that you can give to someone without asking anything in return. But always remember, that when someone expects you to give to them, you really have to be careful because giving is not something that should be taken for granted. And when you give, do not say, "Okay, I will go to this ministry today." but instead, ask God to show you who really needs to be blessed today... whether it is with your time, money, words, or talents.
Sunday, May 29, 2011
May 21, 2011: God's Timing and Testing the Spirits
A manager of mine came up to me on Saturday and said, "please tell me that the world is not going to end at 6 pm today!" I told her that it was not. I told her a few things, and I will explain it as I go. But mainly I wanted to address this issues because now not only did this man make Christians look fake, but his comments made us look crazy, uneducated and filled with doom and gloom.
So now that May 21st 6pm has passed us by, I have thought a little bit about the subject. For those who live in a cave (and probably would not be reading my blog), a man by the name of Harold Camping claimed the Rapture was going to occur at 6 pm on Saturday May 21st. To that, I responded to my manager, "Which time zone? Greenwich meantime is past 6pm already, so if he wanted an internationally recognized time zone to work with it would be that one. Otherwise, it looks pretentious to go with Pacific time (his time) or Eastern Standard time (showing American arrogance)." So right away, there is a time issue.
Lets think about the history or Mr. Camping. According to his latest prediction, we are currently in a six month period of judgment and that Jesus has descended to preside over the judgment. He also predicted that the end was to come in 1994, and that did not happen either. When reading information on him, some of it is really strange to me... such as saying that churches are apostate and that they should be abandoned and that one should be devoted to Bible Study and listening to Family Radio (ironically, his company). Another significant detail is that his education is in Civil Engineering, not Bible. The validity of the Biblical Calendar that he created is believed by some to be false, but I do not know enough about it to make a judgment.
What I do know is that there are Bible verses that support the idea that Jesus did not even know when the end would come. In Matthew 24:36, Jesus claims that neither the Angels or HImself know when the hour or the day. Only the Father. In verse 24:42-44 Jesus states that it will happen at an hour when someone does not expect it. He likens it to a thief, in that if the owner of the house knew when the thief was coming, he would keep watch. So that explains that God wants faithful servants, not those that will only be diligent when the boss is watching (so to speak).
Luke 24:5-11 shows Jesus explaining to his disciples that the End of the Age will come at an unknown time, so continue to live without fear of the end. This story in Luke also illustrates that there will be those that come claiming that they know the information and they come in the Name of Jesus, but they are misled. It is obvious that demonic people can do good and mislead people, which is why it is important to test the spirit of someone.
So you might wonder how we test the spirit of someone. John explains in 1 John 4:1 that it is important to test the spirits of the people who come to them. In his time, some teachers would not acknowledge Jesus as coming from God, and it was obvious that their view was skewed since they deny Jesus' divinity. But even now, a Christian can act under oppression of a demon. I have seen it many times. Whether it is pride, jealousy, wrath, or greed, I have seen teachers teach unsound doctrine or speak unsound words. The question you have to ask yourself is, "is what they are saying matching up with the Bible, and is it matching up with Christ's mission?" If you have doubts, than take the time to understand what is happening and if what they are saying is harmful to you and to others. As always, pray about it and ask for wisdom in what is being spoken.
With me, I never like accusing anyone of being misled or lying. But I tend to get the feeling that what we were told about May 21st was a misguided message. It seems that his track record and his research is not substantial enough to warrant serious consideration. Needless to say, scripture mentions that we will not know the time, it defeats the purpose of living a life for Christ and living a life of love. So until further notice, continue to live life as if there is no tomorrow.
So now that May 21st 6pm has passed us by, I have thought a little bit about the subject. For those who live in a cave (and probably would not be reading my blog), a man by the name of Harold Camping claimed the Rapture was going to occur at 6 pm on Saturday May 21st. To that, I responded to my manager, "Which time zone? Greenwich meantime is past 6pm already, so if he wanted an internationally recognized time zone to work with it would be that one. Otherwise, it looks pretentious to go with Pacific time (his time) or Eastern Standard time (showing American arrogance)." So right away, there is a time issue.
Lets think about the history or Mr. Camping. According to his latest prediction, we are currently in a six month period of judgment and that Jesus has descended to preside over the judgment. He also predicted that the end was to come in 1994, and that did not happen either. When reading information on him, some of it is really strange to me... such as saying that churches are apostate and that they should be abandoned and that one should be devoted to Bible Study and listening to Family Radio (ironically, his company). Another significant detail is that his education is in Civil Engineering, not Bible. The validity of the Biblical Calendar that he created is believed by some to be false, but I do not know enough about it to make a judgment.
What I do know is that there are Bible verses that support the idea that Jesus did not even know when the end would come. In Matthew 24:36, Jesus claims that neither the Angels or HImself know when the hour or the day. Only the Father. In verse 24:42-44 Jesus states that it will happen at an hour when someone does not expect it. He likens it to a thief, in that if the owner of the house knew when the thief was coming, he would keep watch. So that explains that God wants faithful servants, not those that will only be diligent when the boss is watching (so to speak).
Luke 24:5-11 shows Jesus explaining to his disciples that the End of the Age will come at an unknown time, so continue to live without fear of the end. This story in Luke also illustrates that there will be those that come claiming that they know the information and they come in the Name of Jesus, but they are misled. It is obvious that demonic people can do good and mislead people, which is why it is important to test the spirit of someone.
So you might wonder how we test the spirit of someone. John explains in 1 John 4:1 that it is important to test the spirits of the people who come to them. In his time, some teachers would not acknowledge Jesus as coming from God, and it was obvious that their view was skewed since they deny Jesus' divinity. But even now, a Christian can act under oppression of a demon. I have seen it many times. Whether it is pride, jealousy, wrath, or greed, I have seen teachers teach unsound doctrine or speak unsound words. The question you have to ask yourself is, "is what they are saying matching up with the Bible, and is it matching up with Christ's mission?" If you have doubts, than take the time to understand what is happening and if what they are saying is harmful to you and to others. As always, pray about it and ask for wisdom in what is being spoken.
With me, I never like accusing anyone of being misled or lying. But I tend to get the feeling that what we were told about May 21st was a misguided message. It seems that his track record and his research is not substantial enough to warrant serious consideration. Needless to say, scripture mentions that we will not know the time, it defeats the purpose of living a life for Christ and living a life of love. So until further notice, continue to live life as if there is no tomorrow.
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Those in our care...
This week, I have had two separate thoughts about Christian leadership… one is how we treat those that we have an advantage over and how well we feed those in our care. I will tell both in time, and talk about something that God has been working in me.
As many of you know, I am a huge fan of the book of Matthew. I probably reference it more than any of the three synoptic gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke) because I appreciate Matthew’s knowledge of Scripture and his focus on the teachings of Jesus. There is a lot of practical knowledge that can be gleaned from his works. The reading today illustrates Jesus claiming that a child is the greatest of those in heaven, and he talks about children in Matthew 18:1-6.
So lets look at what being like a child means. Jesus describes the child as humble in verse four. That is the one adjective that Jesus uses. When we expand on what it means to be a child, they are almost helpless without their parent. They need someone to protect them and to take care of them. They have no right to be arrogant, prideful, or demanding. They are dependent upon their caretakers. They hold no status, no qualifications, or title. This is no different than many Christians in the church.
The obvious sermon that stems from this verse is saying that we must be humble before God and before others. This is very true! However, I am going to look beyond that and read in verse 5. Verse 5 claims that those that welcome a child welcome Jesus as well, and verse 6 speaks of punishing those that corrupt the children. So this brings us to the two points, how do we talk and how do we take care of those in our care?
Since I have been a Christian, I have noticed that many pastors and leaders tend to overestimate their value to society. They like to think that they are too busy to meet with someone, or only give their time to people that matter in their eyes. I have noticed that consistently, and it bothers me because they become the children that are not welcomed. Jesus ties himself to that child. So when we take the time to acknowledge others and give them value, we are giving value to Jesus as well. This hit me this week as I thought about how “children” could be applied to other Christians as well, or those given authority to us. I am not trying to create new doctrine, I am just submitting this for your consideration!
The second thought that I had was concerning feeding the children. I spoke with a friend yesterday, and she told me that she stopped going to church because she did not like the new teacher at her church. She said that she was not getting anything from the messages, and felt that the new teacher was crass and inappropriate. I told her to keep looking for a church, and that it is much like going to a restaurant. If the chef keeps giving you bad food or food that is not good for you, you find a different chef. He is responsible for feeding you, and that you must find the chef that feeds you properly. I know that someone needs to do their own studying as well, but a pastor is the spiritual chef in which an individual guides their diet.
If an individual leads a younger Christian/child into a life of sin, the punishment is severe. This is why we must always remember that teachers are judged more harshly (James 3:1), and that we must never take our task lightly. Whether we like it or not, people watch us as Christians and judge us or mimic us. My goal is to give people no reason to judge me and be someone worth following. Not for my own glory, but for Christ’s glory and to try and establish a culture of peace and love. That being said, I hope that those that spend time in my life understand that I want to give them the best possible, rather than my left overs.
I have come to realize that after four years of seminary, that I am exhausted. I probably do not live up to the words that I write, but it is my goal to do my best to live up to these words. As I look for a job and a church to work for, I do my best to remember that often times children can still teach me things. In their simplicity, humility, and love, they can speak volumes more than the books in my personal library. It keeps me humble. The life that I signed up for is not a glamorous one being in the ministry, but at the end of the day, I hope that those in my care will know that they mattered to me and that I took care of them the best that I could.
As many of you know, I am a huge fan of the book of Matthew. I probably reference it more than any of the three synoptic gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke) because I appreciate Matthew’s knowledge of Scripture and his focus on the teachings of Jesus. There is a lot of practical knowledge that can be gleaned from his works. The reading today illustrates Jesus claiming that a child is the greatest of those in heaven, and he talks about children in Matthew 18:1-6.
So lets look at what being like a child means. Jesus describes the child as humble in verse four. That is the one adjective that Jesus uses. When we expand on what it means to be a child, they are almost helpless without their parent. They need someone to protect them and to take care of them. They have no right to be arrogant, prideful, or demanding. They are dependent upon their caretakers. They hold no status, no qualifications, or title. This is no different than many Christians in the church.
The obvious sermon that stems from this verse is saying that we must be humble before God and before others. This is very true! However, I am going to look beyond that and read in verse 5. Verse 5 claims that those that welcome a child welcome Jesus as well, and verse 6 speaks of punishing those that corrupt the children. So this brings us to the two points, how do we talk and how do we take care of those in our care?
Since I have been a Christian, I have noticed that many pastors and leaders tend to overestimate their value to society. They like to think that they are too busy to meet with someone, or only give their time to people that matter in their eyes. I have noticed that consistently, and it bothers me because they become the children that are not welcomed. Jesus ties himself to that child. So when we take the time to acknowledge others and give them value, we are giving value to Jesus as well. This hit me this week as I thought about how “children” could be applied to other Christians as well, or those given authority to us. I am not trying to create new doctrine, I am just submitting this for your consideration!
The second thought that I had was concerning feeding the children. I spoke with a friend yesterday, and she told me that she stopped going to church because she did not like the new teacher at her church. She said that she was not getting anything from the messages, and felt that the new teacher was crass and inappropriate. I told her to keep looking for a church, and that it is much like going to a restaurant. If the chef keeps giving you bad food or food that is not good for you, you find a different chef. He is responsible for feeding you, and that you must find the chef that feeds you properly. I know that someone needs to do their own studying as well, but a pastor is the spiritual chef in which an individual guides their diet.
If an individual leads a younger Christian/child into a life of sin, the punishment is severe. This is why we must always remember that teachers are judged more harshly (James 3:1), and that we must never take our task lightly. Whether we like it or not, people watch us as Christians and judge us or mimic us. My goal is to give people no reason to judge me and be someone worth following. Not for my own glory, but for Christ’s glory and to try and establish a culture of peace and love. That being said, I hope that those that spend time in my life understand that I want to give them the best possible, rather than my left overs.
I have come to realize that after four years of seminary, that I am exhausted. I probably do not live up to the words that I write, but it is my goal to do my best to live up to these words. As I look for a job and a church to work for, I do my best to remember that often times children can still teach me things. In their simplicity, humility, and love, they can speak volumes more than the books in my personal library. It keeps me humble. The life that I signed up for is not a glamorous one being in the ministry, but at the end of the day, I hope that those in my care will know that they mattered to me and that I took care of them the best that I could.
Sunday, May 15, 2011
Thank you and I love you.
Thank you and I love you. How often do you feel those two short phrases but forget to say them; or, do you wish that someone else said them to you? The truth is that we as people tend to feel thankful and loving, yet we often times forget to say that.
The Bible is full of references to giving thanks. David gives thanks 18 times in Psalms, the Gospels reference Jesus giving thanks multiple times, and Paul mentions it a bit in his letters. They thanked God when things went well and they gave thanks in the dark times. What stands out the most to me is how Paul continued to thanks God even when he under went persecution. I know in my life, when I am not doing too hot, I do not think to thank God. I am not bitter at him, but I forget to sit and appreciate the protection and the blessings that he has given me.
One thing that I always try to do is to say "thank you" and mean it. Often times that means that people do not hear me say that enough. I find that I think that they know that I appreciate it, but they sometimes do not realize that. So if you get annoyed with me honestly saying "thank you", then just know I do it because I want you to know that I do appreciate you and what you do. It is better to say it too much than to not say it at all!
When it comes to love, when is the last time that you heard someone tell you that they loved you in a way that was not routine or contrived? A lot of people will say that it is about as uncommon as a handwritten note. Love is one of those strange subjects because even though it is a decision, it is often times mistaken for a feeling. If we do not feel positively towards someone, we often times do not want to say "I love you" since we do not feel it. That, or we do not want to give someone the wrong impression by saying, "I love you." It is also a good way to freak people out, so it is not always the wisest choice of words! None the less, we must be careful about who we say that too, but family definitely need to hear it.
WHen I look at that, someone in my life once told me that I never say that I love them. I told that person that I did not want to cheapen the word, because it may lose meaning and that they know that I love them through my actions. That person responded to me, "It is nice to hear every now and then." That really stuck with me, and that is why I try to let people know.''
Recently I have thought a lot about this subject because I hear a lot of people saying that they do not feel appreciated or do not feel loved. You might be one of them, but I think it is important to understand that it is a team effort. I learned a long time ago that if I wanted someone to call me or email me, I had to call and email them first! It sounds weird, but you can not expect everyone to read your mind and do something for you. If you feel unappreciated or unloved, take the first step and let others know that you appreciate them and love them. Mind you, do not do it in a creepy way, but be thoughtful about it and remind them that they are important.
There is another reason that I talk about this, and that has to do with being counter-cultural. Jesus was counter-cultural, and we are very much the same way today. The life that we try to imitate is not the same life that our media and societal norms agree with. In a world that is so focused on individual achievement and selfish ambition, we must always remember to take care of those around us. If you are thankful and loving just as Christ was, you will be compelled to bless and empower others.
As you go through your week, find one person that you love and one person that you appreciate. If you have not told them recently, take the time to do that. Whether it is an email, a verbal thank you or a handwritten note, let them know what they are important to you and what qualities you appreciate about them. A simple "thank you, you are great" might be okay (though it is vague), but you will probably want to add details into it. Such as, "I always appreciate the way that you _______" That is more direct and they know that you actually took the time to think of something that they did. I hope that you take the time to do this, you will not regret it!
The Bible is full of references to giving thanks. David gives thanks 18 times in Psalms, the Gospels reference Jesus giving thanks multiple times, and Paul mentions it a bit in his letters. They thanked God when things went well and they gave thanks in the dark times. What stands out the most to me is how Paul continued to thanks God even when he under went persecution. I know in my life, when I am not doing too hot, I do not think to thank God. I am not bitter at him, but I forget to sit and appreciate the protection and the blessings that he has given me.
One thing that I always try to do is to say "thank you" and mean it. Often times that means that people do not hear me say that enough. I find that I think that they know that I appreciate it, but they sometimes do not realize that. So if you get annoyed with me honestly saying "thank you", then just know I do it because I want you to know that I do appreciate you and what you do. It is better to say it too much than to not say it at all!
When it comes to love, when is the last time that you heard someone tell you that they loved you in a way that was not routine or contrived? A lot of people will say that it is about as uncommon as a handwritten note. Love is one of those strange subjects because even though it is a decision, it is often times mistaken for a feeling. If we do not feel positively towards someone, we often times do not want to say "I love you" since we do not feel it. That, or we do not want to give someone the wrong impression by saying, "I love you." It is also a good way to freak people out, so it is not always the wisest choice of words! None the less, we must be careful about who we say that too, but family definitely need to hear it.
WHen I look at that, someone in my life once told me that I never say that I love them. I told that person that I did not want to cheapen the word, because it may lose meaning and that they know that I love them through my actions. That person responded to me, "It is nice to hear every now and then." That really stuck with me, and that is why I try to let people know.''
Recently I have thought a lot about this subject because I hear a lot of people saying that they do not feel appreciated or do not feel loved. You might be one of them, but I think it is important to understand that it is a team effort. I learned a long time ago that if I wanted someone to call me or email me, I had to call and email them first! It sounds weird, but you can not expect everyone to read your mind and do something for you. If you feel unappreciated or unloved, take the first step and let others know that you appreciate them and love them. Mind you, do not do it in a creepy way, but be thoughtful about it and remind them that they are important.
There is another reason that I talk about this, and that has to do with being counter-cultural. Jesus was counter-cultural, and we are very much the same way today. The life that we try to imitate is not the same life that our media and societal norms agree with. In a world that is so focused on individual achievement and selfish ambition, we must always remember to take care of those around us. If you are thankful and loving just as Christ was, you will be compelled to bless and empower others.
As you go through your week, find one person that you love and one person that you appreciate. If you have not told them recently, take the time to do that. Whether it is an email, a verbal thank you or a handwritten note, let them know what they are important to you and what qualities you appreciate about them. A simple "thank you, you are great" might be okay (though it is vague), but you will probably want to add details into it. Such as, "I always appreciate the way that you _______" That is more direct and they know that you actually took the time to think of something that they did. I hope that you take the time to do this, you will not regret it!
Wednesday, May 11, 2011
Ask and You Shall Receive?
I wanted to write about this two weeks ago, but for some reason I decided against it. Strangely enough, we got on this same subject in Sam's (a friend of mine) life group. To me this is an extremely controversial subject that definitely needs to be talked about, especially considering that there are so many prosperity gospel teachers out there that misinterpret this verse.
In 1 John 3:21 & 22, John is writing concerning how we ask for our heart's desires from God, and that we will receive what we ask for. This post is not to criticize any of those pastors that preach a prosperity gospel, instead, it is me trying to help people understand why they may not get EVERYTHING that they want.
I can remember being on a Cleveland Browns forum one day, and the discussion somehow turned into a religious one. One guy said, "There can not be a God. I prayed a few times for certain things to happen, but it never did. I had serious requests, and he did not answer them." Here in lies the problem, Christians in the west have become so accustomed to believing that God works for them, that they forget we work for God.
They also forget that in verse 22, John states "receive from him anything we ask, because we obey his commandments and do what pleases him." This is why we have the confidence, because our hearts do not condemn us since we want to do what pleases him. We want to seek his desires. Our hearts desires line up with his hearts desires.
I can remember as a little kid hearing about my Dad having all of these awesome cars before I was born. I can remember I really wanted a Corvette. It is not a sinful desire to want a nice car, but over time it became less important to the point where I really do not want one anymore. It would be great to have a really nice car, but it is not a huge desire of mine that I have to have. I say this because instead of saving for a car like that, I feel more inclined to have a car that it nice but more functional, and that I could invest that money in other needs and be able to give to others.
One thing that I started doing a few years back is to pray that I may see others the way that God sees them. This way I could pray more effectively for them. Another huge topic for me is that I pray for wisdom in everything. I want to try and think like God. Whether it is "do I really need to buy that soda when I could just pack a water bottle" or "should I spend time with this person today?", I learned that when I ask for God's wisdom on my everyday life decisions life tends to go smoother for me. Yes, there are bumps in the road (ref: my life a few weeks ago wrapping up the thesis), but when you seek God's perspective you decipher what is permanent and what is temporal, and you value the permanent.
Now you might ask, "I ask for Godly things, but they do not happen." Ultimately, we do not know why God does what he does. Yes, God can heal cancer, God can raise the dead, God can bring someone to a saving knowledge of himself, but it does not always happen. There are so many factors to why things happen, such as free will. When we seek God's heart, we may not understand why he does what he does, but we have peace in knowing that he wants what is best for us and best for others.
Imagine being a parent with your kid in the candy store, you would love to see your kid happy. But if Junior decides what makes him happy is buying a few meals worth of candy, you know the ramifications of such a decision. You reinforce bad dietary habits since the treat becomes the meal, promote tooth decay, teaches them that they can get whatever they want when they want, and that ultimately he is the center of attention.
God knows that often times our desires can be self destructive, so why would he give us "everything that we want"? This is how he is with us, and that is why John encourages his audience to be confident in asking from God when our will is aligned with his... because he has what is right in mind. So when you think about asking and receiving, remember that God knows what is best for us and for those around us, and that you are in good hands.
In 1 John 3:21 & 22, John is writing concerning how we ask for our heart's desires from God, and that we will receive what we ask for. This post is not to criticize any of those pastors that preach a prosperity gospel, instead, it is me trying to help people understand why they may not get EVERYTHING that they want.
I can remember being on a Cleveland Browns forum one day, and the discussion somehow turned into a religious one. One guy said, "There can not be a God. I prayed a few times for certain things to happen, but it never did. I had serious requests, and he did not answer them." Here in lies the problem, Christians in the west have become so accustomed to believing that God works for them, that they forget we work for God.
They also forget that in verse 22, John states "receive from him anything we ask, because we obey his commandments and do what pleases him." This is why we have the confidence, because our hearts do not condemn us since we want to do what pleases him. We want to seek his desires. Our hearts desires line up with his hearts desires.
I can remember as a little kid hearing about my Dad having all of these awesome cars before I was born. I can remember I really wanted a Corvette. It is not a sinful desire to want a nice car, but over time it became less important to the point where I really do not want one anymore. It would be great to have a really nice car, but it is not a huge desire of mine that I have to have. I say this because instead of saving for a car like that, I feel more inclined to have a car that it nice but more functional, and that I could invest that money in other needs and be able to give to others.
One thing that I started doing a few years back is to pray that I may see others the way that God sees them. This way I could pray more effectively for them. Another huge topic for me is that I pray for wisdom in everything. I want to try and think like God. Whether it is "do I really need to buy that soda when I could just pack a water bottle" or "should I spend time with this person today?", I learned that when I ask for God's wisdom on my everyday life decisions life tends to go smoother for me. Yes, there are bumps in the road (ref: my life a few weeks ago wrapping up the thesis), but when you seek God's perspective you decipher what is permanent and what is temporal, and you value the permanent.
Now you might ask, "I ask for Godly things, but they do not happen." Ultimately, we do not know why God does what he does. Yes, God can heal cancer, God can raise the dead, God can bring someone to a saving knowledge of himself, but it does not always happen. There are so many factors to why things happen, such as free will. When we seek God's heart, we may not understand why he does what he does, but we have peace in knowing that he wants what is best for us and best for others.
Imagine being a parent with your kid in the candy store, you would love to see your kid happy. But if Junior decides what makes him happy is buying a few meals worth of candy, you know the ramifications of such a decision. You reinforce bad dietary habits since the treat becomes the meal, promote tooth decay, teaches them that they can get whatever they want when they want, and that ultimately he is the center of attention.
God knows that often times our desires can be self destructive, so why would he give us "everything that we want"? This is how he is with us, and that is why John encourages his audience to be confident in asking from God when our will is aligned with his... because he has what is right in mind. So when you think about asking and receiving, remember that God knows what is best for us and for those around us, and that you are in good hands.
Monday, May 2, 2011
Respecting Gods Gift
There has been a reoccurring theme in the past few months of my life. I keep meeting people who ask me or talk to me about trying to figure out why God allowed certain events or relationships to happen, especially when things go really bad and people get damaged beyond repair.
Last week I talked about how Satan can play into controversies, but I never really explained why God allows things to happen. I think the bottom line answer is we will never know, but there are a few things that I have found in my life that have helped shape me and I am going to talk about that.
In my life, I have found that part of the reason that I want to become a pastor is because I have had horrible experiences in the past. Instead of choosing to wallow in self-pity, I decided to be the change and do my best to be the leader that Christians deserve. I learned that it is not acceptable to demand perfection out of those under me, I learned that sound doctrine and sound teaching is so crucial, it is not acceptable to judge people or stereotype people, and I learned that it is so important to understand people as individuals. If I was at healthy churches my entire life, I would have taken all that for granted. But instead, I learned first hand what is important. Also, if I was naturally gifted with speech and knowledge and did not struggle with the disorders that I did, I think that I would not respect the ability to get up and give sermons or teach people.
The second part of this concept is why God allows bad relationships to happen. This can be work, personal, leadership, or any other time in which people relate. I have heard people talk with me about this a lot recently. Unfortunately, the Bible tends to do a horrible job concerning relationships, so we kind of have to figure this stuff out for ourselves. People will ask, "why did God allow me to date/marry this person if he knew that we were not going to make it?" I came to realize that often times we get ourselves into relationships that are not healthy, or the person is not necessarily healthy. Sometimes we have to learn the hard way. Other times relationships just end, but we feel like we just wasted months of our lives figuring that one out.
What I have to say to that is, no, you did not waste your time. When you finally meet that person that you are supposed to marry, I think you will have a heck of a lot more respect for the awesome person that you end up with. I have been in some pretty bad situations in the past, but I can not tell you enough how appreciative I feel when I am with someone who is emotionally healthy. I do not take that for granted. Yes, relationships can be hard and there will be tension, but there is a difference between going through life with someone who truly loves you and keeps your heart in check verses someone who is self-centered in times of crisis. You learn a lot about people in times of crisis, and if they care about you they will make sure that your heart is safe.
So as I close, I want you to remember that even though you are going through trials, try to understand that what you are going through today maybe something to prepare you for tomorrow. Whether it is a bigger obstacle to overcome or if it is someone or something that will be greater than you imagined, we sometimes go through things in life so that we may have a better respect for God's gift.
Last week I talked about how Satan can play into controversies, but I never really explained why God allows things to happen. I think the bottom line answer is we will never know, but there are a few things that I have found in my life that have helped shape me and I am going to talk about that.
In my life, I have found that part of the reason that I want to become a pastor is because I have had horrible experiences in the past. Instead of choosing to wallow in self-pity, I decided to be the change and do my best to be the leader that Christians deserve. I learned that it is not acceptable to demand perfection out of those under me, I learned that sound doctrine and sound teaching is so crucial, it is not acceptable to judge people or stereotype people, and I learned that it is so important to understand people as individuals. If I was at healthy churches my entire life, I would have taken all that for granted. But instead, I learned first hand what is important. Also, if I was naturally gifted with speech and knowledge and did not struggle with the disorders that I did, I think that I would not respect the ability to get up and give sermons or teach people.
The second part of this concept is why God allows bad relationships to happen. This can be work, personal, leadership, or any other time in which people relate. I have heard people talk with me about this a lot recently. Unfortunately, the Bible tends to do a horrible job concerning relationships, so we kind of have to figure this stuff out for ourselves. People will ask, "why did God allow me to date/marry this person if he knew that we were not going to make it?" I came to realize that often times we get ourselves into relationships that are not healthy, or the person is not necessarily healthy. Sometimes we have to learn the hard way. Other times relationships just end, but we feel like we just wasted months of our lives figuring that one out.
What I have to say to that is, no, you did not waste your time. When you finally meet that person that you are supposed to marry, I think you will have a heck of a lot more respect for the awesome person that you end up with. I have been in some pretty bad situations in the past, but I can not tell you enough how appreciative I feel when I am with someone who is emotionally healthy. I do not take that for granted. Yes, relationships can be hard and there will be tension, but there is a difference between going through life with someone who truly loves you and keeps your heart in check verses someone who is self-centered in times of crisis. You learn a lot about people in times of crisis, and if they care about you they will make sure that your heart is safe.
So as I close, I want you to remember that even though you are going through trials, try to understand that what you are going through today maybe something to prepare you for tomorrow. Whether it is a bigger obstacle to overcome or if it is someone or something that will be greater than you imagined, we sometimes go through things in life so that we may have a better respect for God's gift.
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